Category Archives: Couples

What can COVID teach us about consent?

What can COVID teach us about consent? Its safe to say that COVID has shifted our worlds dramatically. I haven’t met a single person unaffected in one way or another. And while there are many outcomes from COVID and the lockdown, both negative and positive, one that I am beginning to explore with clients is […]

I had an affair, the guilt is killing me!

I had an affair, the guilt is killing me!   If you are reading this, I’m guessing you are in the hot box. You may be confused as to how to proceed, what to do next. You’ve had an affair, maybe you have already told your partner about it, maybe you haven’t. But either way […]

The grief paradigm of affairs.

If you have looked up affairs or infidelity on the internet, you have likely gotten an onslaught of information, largely related to how bad the affair partner is, how their moral compass is off, and the oldie but goodie, “once a cheater, always a cheater” nonsense. But if you are the person that had the […]

Pause, reflect, respond

Communication is tricky business. Communication is the primary reason any person calls me asking for help in couples or relationship counseling. We don’t talk, they say. Or we only argue. Or we don’t know how to talk about our feelings.  Each time I hear this and I know the feeling. Because communication is at the core […]

Communication for couples

Coupledom is hard. Long term, short term, casual or official it is difficult to communicate effectively. What would you say the biggest pitfalls to communication are? Misunderstanding? Aggressive tone? Reading between the lines? Dismissing communication? OR not engaging in conversation maybe? I see all of these all the time. They are all common and equally […]